Why So Many Men Suffer
From Premature Ejaculation....
And How to Overcome
Premature Ejaculation

By: Believe Chika.

Why do most men have a hard time holding on or keeping it up in bed? As frustrating as premature ejaculation can be, it is still something that can be overcome. Read on to find out how.

Some researchers say that premature ejaculation is a psychological problem. It could be due to the pressures of quick satisfaction in the younger days. Having a quick sex because you don't want to get caught were the things that a male would do in the younger days, and yet, get a lot of pleasure. 

Also, some married men who suffer from premature ejaculation might be due to having quick sex with their wives just for the sake of "mechanical pleasure". And since this happened over time, it has now become a habit and a problem. This rapid attainment of carnal release is stuck in most men’s head and they find it really hard to hold on any longer that a few minutes. 

On the other hand, some researchers say that this dysfunction could have a scientific solution, due to the hormonal differences in different males.

But whatever the reason, we as men always want to please our women. Firstly, to satisfy them, and secondly, to boost our morale, though not necessarily in that order. Many men have assumed that the best way to extend their lasting strength during sex is by thinking about something else, to distract themselves from the act itself. But in actual, this approach can be a dampener than a turn on and make things worse.

According to researchers, carnal arousal is a four phase process.

In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins.

In the Plateau Stage, erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused.

When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation.

Then during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides.

The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.


Use These Methods To Last Longer During Sex

So what can you do while having sex to avoid an early ejaculation or even overcome it? Apply the following methods:

#1 Control Your Overexcitement. Avoid aggressive or wild angry sex at least for now. When you lose control of your erection, that’s when you’d lose the erection completely. Try to indulge in calm, slow and romantic sex. By avoiding fast and aggressive sex, you’d be able to last longer because you won’t experience a sudden burst of sexual energy in an instant. 

#2 Certain positions help you last longer. The position you use during sex is not really going to help with premature ejaculation by itself, but certain positions definitely work better when it comes to delaying ejaculation.

The basic missionary style will usually make you ejaculate the quickest. This is caused from having to use more groin muscles to thrust, and from the common excitement spike most men report when using this position. To make lasting in missionary position easier, keep your body upright. Don’t lean over face to face. It’s easier to stay upright if there’s a pillow underneath her bottom. This also props her up for easier access and less effort when deep thrusting.

Standing up while holding her around you, or lying down and having her on top will allow you to last the longest.

Standing up is kind of awkward, but it can be very exciting and will increase your lasting time.

Having her on top is the easiest time to keep your body relaxed because you don’t have to do any thrusting yourself. However, if she’s on top you’ll have less control of the thrusting rhythm. You’d have to tell her to stop or slow down when getting close to ejaculate, which isn’t exactly the best thing to say on a first time or one-night stand.

Variations of doggy style are somewhere in the middle. They allow for easy access and good control, but like missionary position they often cause an increase in excitement.

A position where you feel relaxed and in control of your ejaculation is going to be your best bet.

It can also depend on personal preferences. Some men may ‘get off’ more when a woman is on top, or vice versa. Whichever makes it easier to keep your ejaculation under control is what you should begin your lovemaking session with.

#3 Be in sync with your partner. This is where she can help you. If she ever feels you throbbing when you’re inside of her, tell her to avoid moving too aggressively (or even stop moving completely) so you can regain your control. At times, as hard as you try, you do need some help from your woman to make sex last longer.

#4 Don’t change your pace too often. Changing the pace of the to and fro motion when you’re inside her feels good for both of you. But when you do that, you’d also end up ejaculating faster because the change in pace makes you more horny. So the best thing is to maintain a cool and steady pace that will enable you to stay much longer during sex.

#5 Shallow moves. Once you’ve penetrated her, don’t go slamming her like you’re a porn star on heat. Go shallow and easy. Move just a few inches in and out of her unless you’re feeling very confident, because longer and deeper moves of the shaft will excite your penis a lot faster.

#6 Don’t obsess about your orgasm. One of the biggest reasons why so many men suffer from premature ejaculation on a regular basis is because they spend so much time obsessing over this little problem of theirs.

These things happen to so many men all the time. And you’ll definitely get over it sometime soon. So until then, ignore the thought of premature ejaculation before or during sex by keeping your mind occupied elsewhere.

This works well when you focus on her and not on yourself.

#7 Control your breathing. Breathing plays a big part in controlling your ejaculation. If you’re on the verge of ejaculation and want to hold it back, focus on your breathing and try to release your breath slowly through your mouth in a controlled manner when you’re inside her.

This is hard to explain in a sentence without going into details, but trust me, just breathe out through your mouth slowly and you’ll see how it works.

In conclusion, it’s true that premature ejaculation is frustrating and demeaning. But use these 7 simple tips to last longer during sex and you may just be able to turn your life around and have a great sex life with just a little effort (constant practice)!



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Believe Chika is a Men's Health and Sexuality Advisor. He's been helping men regain strength, enjoy better and prolonged sex since 2012. He is the author of the best 100% natural premature ejaculation treatment guide: The Natural Premature Ejaculation Treatment Guide. 

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